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Alive and Living in Ireland: The Sanctity and Value of Human Life

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Our six-part series deals covers a wide spectrum of topics dealing with the sanctity and value of human life.

During the course of these programmes you’re going to hear from a number of families, including the stories of single mothers raising their children. We’ll hear how they’ve coped, along with remarkable insights and compelling stories of the priceless value that children with special needs are to their families and their communities.

We’ll talk with others who have had to cope with loss– either through natural death or through abortion, along with a Professional Psychotherapist about abortion regret and recovery.

We’ll also ask a question that seems to have come under scrutiny in the past several years: “Just how safe IS Ireland is to have a child?

And, finally, you’ll hear some thoughts on the sanctity of human life and the legal infrastructure in Ireland.

Christmas Day at Kirkby Cottage – Audio Drama

Christmas Day at Kirkby Cottage is a love story—or what we would call today a “rom-com” –a Romantic Comedy—with a tone & feel of Jane Austen’s “Pride and Prejudice.”  The Christmas theme not only provides a charming background of holly & ivy, and seasonal cheer; but also forms the heart of the story.

Family.ie is pleased to offer you our own Christmas gift to your family—Anthony Trollope’s “Christmas Day at Kirkby Cottage;” performed by Focus on the Family Radio Theatre!

Radio Theatre takes advantage of award-winning voice actors, orchestral musical scores, motion-picture quality sound design, and riveting scripts to unveil finished products that have earned such coveted awards as the George Foster Peabody, the Audie Award, and the Parent’s Choice Award – to name just a few. Radio Theatre isn’t just storytelling. It’s not a “book-on-tape.” It’s a movie that plays on the biggest screen of all… your imagination.

To order an audio CD-set, contact us!

The Shoemaker’s Gift – Audio Drama

Leo Tolstoy is best remembered for weighty masterpieces like, “War and Peace;” but Count Leo Tolstoy also wrote a large number of short stories. Of all Tolstoy’s works, perhaps the most endearing…is the story you’re about to hear.

It’s been given many titles over the years, including Tolstoy’s original: “Where Love is, There God is Also.” The video version was called, “Martin the Cobbler,” the name of the musical was, “Papa Ponoff ,”and the title for our production: “The Shoemaker’s Gift.”

Regardless of the name, this story embodies the message of the season: that the greatest gift –is the one that’s given from the heart. Celebrate the joy of the season with this Christmas classic.  Listen as Tolstoy’s Russian classic “Shoemaker Martin” comes alive!

Radio Theatre takes advantage of award-winning voice actors, orchestral musical scores, motion-picture quality sound design, and riveting scripts to unveil finished products that have earned such coveted awards as the George Foster Peabody, the Audie Award, and the Parent’s Choice Award – to name just a few. Radio Theatre isn’t just storytelling. It’s not a “book-on-tape.” It’s a movie that plays on the biggest screen of all… your imagination.

To order an audio CD-set, contact us!

Christmas by Injunction- Audio Drama

pic_traveling-home-for-christmas“Christmas By Injunction” takes us back in time to the “gold rush” in the Old West of the United States. We think you’ll find it’s quite an adventure with all sorts of colourful characters. So sit back for the next half hour or so with your favourite cuppa, and enjoy our “Christmas gift” to you—Focus on the Family Radio Theatre presents O. Henry’s “Christmas by Injunction.”

Radio Theatre takes advantage of award-winning voice actors, orchestral musical scores, motion-picture quality sound design, and riveting scripts to unveil finished products that have earned such coveted awards as the George Foster Peabody, the Audie Award, and the Parent’s Choice Award – to name just a few. Radio Theatre isn’t just storytelling. It’s not an “audio book.” It’s a movie that plays on the biggest screen of all… your imagination.

To order an audio CD-set, contact us!

So You Are Going to Be a Daddy!

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Written by Joseph Schneller

You’re just about to find out your wife’s pregnant with your first child. Your friend, Nate (father of two), has said that having a child represents more life change than getting married. Your wife’s about to find out that babies aren’t the only ones who lie in the fetal position sucking their thumb. But let’s take this one step at a time.

For some reason, the idea of how your wife has to use the pregnancy test stick thing is enormously funny to you. The kind of funny where tears run down your face and laughing fits hit you in waves. At one point, between hysterics, you tell her that if it’d make her feel better, you’ll take a pregnancy test, too. This also strikes you as the pinnacle of funnyhood.

She, on the other hand, has been reading books such as Taking Charge of Your Fertility and realises that her husband is “attempting to cope with his anxiety.” She understands that your uncontrollable laughter is Step 1 of your coping process, soon to be followed by:

Step 2: bed-wetting

Step 3: the desire to purchase a fast, red automobile.

After waiting three minutes in which the world stops spinning, you and your wife mutter a quick prayer, look one another in the eye and count two pink lines on the stick. Thus follows the most basic and unpresuming conversation the two of you will ever have:

Wife: Is that two lines?

You: I count “two.”

Wife: Are you sure that’s two lines?

You: Well, there’s the one line there, then there’s another line by the first. So, taken together, that makes two.

Your wife looks at you and screams like a 13-year-old girl who’s just seen her best friend for the first time since yesterday. You look at your wife and scream like a camper who’s just spilled a jar of honey on himself in grizzly bear country.

After dancing around awhile, counting the lines again, crying, then recounting the lines, your wife gets on the phone to notify first-tier family and friends. Second-tier friends will have to wait until the second trimester, which apparently begins on March 28. Your wife knows this without even looking at a calendar. She then counts the pink lines again.

While she’s on the phone, you realise that the baby’s growth and development are really the secondary purpose of the nine-month gestation. The primary purpose is so that you can get used to the idea of being a father. Right now, the most profound things you’re saying are, “Wow!” and “Oh, man!” and “That’s just, I mean . . . wow!”

You see, your wife’s been meditating on motherhood since she was four years old. You, on the contrary, have been considering fatherhood for about, hmm, five minutes (if you round up). So, in an effort to control your breathing, you head downstairs and flip on “The Show Before the Show That Precedes the Pre-Game Show.” That’s when you find several items on the coffee table that weren’t there last night:

  1. What to Expect When You’re Expecting
  2. a magazine on pregnancy
  3. a baby name book the size of a cereal box

These have appeared so quickly that you realise your wife had them stashed away at the bottom of her wardrobe.

Flipping though the pregnancy magazine, you think about asking your wife if she went to the bookstore while you were, uh, blowing your nose this morning. But then you glance at a page that says your baby’s heart will begin to form during the second month.

“Really?” you say out loud. “That early?” Sitting down, you mute the TV and turn the page.

So you’re gonna be a daddy.

Joseph Schneller became a dad for the first time in July of 2007.

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Why Dad is important

A husband’s involvement during pregnancy can make a significant difference in a wife’s prenatal and postpartum experiences. Research shows that the presence of an emotionally supportive husband can help a woman more quickly adapt to pregnancy changes and lead to a more positive labour and delivery; it’s even been proven to influence a mother’s sense of competence in infant feeding. A study published in the Maternal and Child Health Journal concluded, ”Father involvement is an important, but understudied, predictor of maternal behaviours during the prenatal period, and improving father involvement may have important consequences for the health of his partner, her pregnancy and their child.” Whether analysing emotional, physical or relational benefits, all evidence suggests that women and children fare best when husbands and fathers are involved.

Pamela Woody

© 2009 Focus on the Family. All rights reserved. International copyright secured. Used by permission.

How to Talk About Sex With Your Kids

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by Amy Stephens

When my son Nicholas was almost 4 years old, he crooked his little finger at me one day and said, “Want a kiss?” Getting my active son to stop long enough to hug and kiss me was always a challenge, so naturally I said, “Yes!”

I remember he closed his little eyes and kissed me. Suddenly, out of nowhere, I had this vision of him kissing a teenage girl! My eyes popped wide open, and in my mind, I could hear myself scream, “AHHHHHH.”

The vision seemed as real as though I’d watched it on live television. I took it as my wake-up call to become more intentional with the messages I was giving Nick about love, sex and relationships. In fact, after he finished his little kiss and ran off, I got busy thinking of ways to lay a positive foundation of healthy relationships in his life.

Ages 0-7 are an intense time of brain development; children are at many different levels of emotional, social and character maturity. Girls are often ahead of boys, and this must be considered when you talk to your child about love, sex and relationships.

You wouldn’t think so, simply because of their young age, but these years are very important in laying a foundation of healthy sexuality. What does it require from us? It requires us to be intentional, prayerful, informed and committed to talking often with our children.

The days of “the talk” are over. There are too many messages in the media and other sources vying for our kid’s attention. We could all learn a lesson from Disney about communicating with kids. Think sound bytes. Know your key messages. Really connect with your children, broach the messages briefly and then return to them later for more explanation.

Key Messages We Want Our Children to Remember

What themes are good to focus on as early as 4 years old?

  • God made your body, and it is special
  • Babies come from God; they are a result of marriage and love
  • Your body is special; It is yours and no one else’s
  • God made boys and girls different
  • Because boys and girls are different, we practise modesty
  • Boys and girls are both excellent; you are exactly as God wanted you

All these themes build as your child grows, but each message lays the foundation for creating stable relationships toward marriage. In this stage, you will also begin establishing the norm of marriage as the ultimate context for sex.

We want our children to see the sacredness of marriage and sense that you have faith they will one day be a great marriage partner. Viewing marriage as an eventual goal gives children a reason to later buy into ideas like abstinence … we save ourselves for our future spouse so our marriage will be as strong as possible, based on trust and exclusivity.

We want to be able to point our child to what they can say yes to rather than no. We say yes to positive relationships with both sexes, yes to respect for others, yes to our right to control what happens to our bodies, yes to a positive future. Too often, we tell our children no without offering anything as an alternative.

Self-Concept Is Critical

I remember the first day of school for my son. I cry every time I see the picture. Such a sweet, innocent face — what would this new experience hold? All the students looked so full of wonder and excitement. I remember thinking that junior infants was the starting block for their foray into elementary school and that some would race ahead while others fell behind. It was a bittersweet feeling.

True to my feeling, I’ve watched as some girls that started out confident in senior infants are now experiencing self-doubt and poor self-concept in fifth class. I’ve watched happy boys become angry boys over a parent’s divorce. This all plays a role in a child’s ability to practise abstinence and sustain healthy relationships. Abandoned little girls will seek an unsuspecting boy to fill the void in their heart. Angry young men can become emotionally distant to protect themselves from pain — never letting someone close enough to have their heart.

The themes for ages 4-7 are easy, everyday themes you can impart to your child without exposing them to too much information. Overexposure can be just as damaging to a child as too little.

Protecting your child from sexual images is also critical because of their cognitive and emotional development. So prevent young minds from being scarred; carefully monitor television, Internet and video content.

Connect With Your Eyes, Your Touch and Attention

The best advice I ever received on connecting with my child came from two men I respect immensely – the late David Gatewood, a former Focus on the Family counselor, and of course, Dr. James Dobson.

I was carrying my newborn son in the lift with Dr. Dobson one day and he said, “Amy, kiss him and hug him often because there will come a day when you won’t get to do it as much.” I took his word to heart. I think Nick is an affectionate kid because of his advice.

When I was a new mother, David Gatewood told me that to connect with my son I needed to look him right in the eye attentively when he was talking to me, touch his hand and be sure to let him know that I heard him. When you’ve had a long day that is a hard lesson to follow. But I’ve seen it work. My son knows when I’m really “with him” and when my mind is wandering.

Connecting with our children is the key to preventing all kinds of at-risk behaviour. Build on your themes now, because they will carry you to the exciting elementary ages of 8–12.

Themes to Discuss With Your Child 0-3 and 4-7

God Made Your Body:

Your body is a gift from God. You are unique; there is no one like you. Appreciate your body and take care of it. We eat good food to keep it healthy, we exercise to keep healthy, we keep our mind healthy by guarding what we watch, and we keep our emotions healthy by praying and by having true friendships.

Babies Come from God — They Should Be the Result Only of Marital Love:

Babies are all made by God. This is why we protect their life right from the beginning. How do babies come into the world? The best way for a baby to come in to the world is through the love of a married man and woman. Sadly, this doesn’t happen all the time. However, God’s best plan is for a baby to be born with a mother and father that are married. Marriage is God’s best idea to create a family for years to come.

Your Body Is Special — It Is Yours and No One Else’s:

Your body is a gift from God, and He expects you to take care of it. No one has the right to touch your body but you. We allow the doctor to touch your body in order to take care of your health, or Mum and Dad may need to help you with your body for health, but no one else is to touch it. If someone tries to touch your body or asks to touch your body, you immediately run and tell your parents or other trusted adult. There is no such thing as keeping that kind of secret from your parents. We (parents) will always be here to help you.

Boys and Girls Are Different:

God made boys and girls different in order for both to become lifegivers. When you are older and married, you may someday have children. Girls have babies — boys don’t. Girls have the ability as they get older to birth babies. A baby is a gift from God and grows in the womb in Mum’s tummy. It takes nine months to grow a baby, and during that time we protect the baby’s life by practising healthy habits like eating right and getting enough sleep. The best place for a baby to be born and raised is with a married man and woman. As you grow and get older (around middle school) your body will change. That’s a great thing because we all change as we get older.

Because Boys and Girls Are Different, We Practise Modesty:

Because our body is special and a gift from God, we protect it in how we dress and act. The best and first place to practise modesty is in the home. We can practise modesty by how we dress. We can practise modesty by knocking on Mum and Dad’s door while they are getting ready for work or church. We practise modesty by not barging in while our brother or sister is getting dressed. You can set an age when this should be in full practise — 4-year-olds may not be ready, but a 6- and 7-year-old should practise this at home. We also practise modesty in public by not being rough with the opposite sex. We don’t hit or kick each other even when playing, especially not in the private parts of someone’s body.

Be a True Friend:

What is a true friend? A true friend likes you for who you are without demanding that you be something else. What are the character qualities of a true friend? A true friend is honest, loyal, kind, compassionate and faithful. A true friend will not reject you to run off and play with others. A true friend will not tear you down or mock you privately or in front of other people. A true friend will care when you are hurting. A true friend will be honest with you when you are doing something wrong.

Friends Will Disagree — Resolve Conflict in a Healthy Way:

Disagreement is a part of life. How will you resolve disagreement? There is a healthy and unhealthy way. Sometimes we need a cool-off time before we speak. You may need to leave a situation and come back later. We don’t call people names. We practise “I” messages rather than “you” messages. We are honest about how we feel. It is a good idea to pray when we have a conflict so we can ask for God’s help in settling our differences.

Affirm Your Child’s Gender:

“Isn’t it great to be a girl!” “What a strong boy you are.” These messages affirm your child’s gender identity. Do not (even jokingly) put down or make fun of your child’s gender. “What a baby” or “What a sissy” does not help your young son. Affirm your daughter’s unique beauty. Let her know how special she is, particularly in Daddy’s eyes. Go on special dates with your child to affirm her self-concept. Try to refrain from faces or grimaces when they are trying something new and fail. They aren’t perfect little people.

We Don’t Get Everything We Want:

Every family has standards, and your standards may not be those of the family next door. Say “I know so and so gets to do this, but your dad and I have a different standard. This is the standard for the Stephens home.” Making your child work or save for something he wants teaches him to practise delayed gratification. “I know you want this, but it isn’t in your best interest right now — or you may have this later.” “Others may be able to watch this show, but we aren’t watching this in our family because.…” 

Copyright © 2005 Focus on the Family. All rights reserved. International copyright secured.

Six Features of a Father Figure

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by Tracy Crump

My husband, Stan, was just 7 months old when his dad died, and his mother never remarried. I have often wondered, How did Stan learn to be such a good father to our two sons? While a mother’s love is invaluable, boys need men to teach them to be fathers. My mother-in-law knew this and wisely introduced her son to positive male influences throughout his childhood.

According to OneParent.ie*:

“More than one in four families with children in Ireland is headed by a lone parent. Mothers head the vast majority of one-parent families (87%),”

Many mothers would like to have admirable role models for their sons. Finding the right one becomes crucial when we remember that good fathers reflect God’s love toward His children.

If we could assemble the perfect father figure, what would we see?

Big heart

No matter their age, all boys need affection. But male love looks different from female love. Male love is active and physical; it plays ball and roughhouses; it encourages with a slap on the back and defends when necessary.

As a preschooler, my husband stayed with the Campbells, a family with five sons, during his mother’s work hours. The boys, all much older than Stan, provided the physical “guy love” he needed and taught him how to handle male aggression through their good-natured camaraderie. Taking him under their wing, they taught him an important trait of good fathers—to protect those you love.

Open arms

Nothing bolsters a boy’s self-worth like spending time with a man who enjoys his company. While sports and other activities are great, sometimes guys just need to hang out together.

When Mr. Campbell came home from work, he would often sit with Stan while they read the comic strips together or talked. At other times they would walk in the garden or play with the dog. Without realising it, this kind and gentle man taught Stan how to focus on and enjoy a child.

Gentle, firm voice

Boys need clear boundaries. And while mothers can go a long way in socialising their sons, boys learn best how to be good disciplinarians when fathers demonstrate self-control as they dole out punishment.

With five boys in the Campbell family, their home provided plenty of opportunity for Stan to see kids reprimanded. Not once did their dad raise his voice or react in anger. He used a conversational tone when he corrected his sons but clearly communicated the limits. The boys rarely went beyond them. Years later, Stan would use these same techniques with our sons.

Dirty fingernails

Fathers instinctively know you have to keep male hands busy. Boys need someone who will get down in the dirt with them, teach them how to build birdhouses or change the oil in the car.

When Stan was in grade school, he occasionally stayed with the Morris family that included three generations of males under the same roof. He and Rickey, who was Stan’s age, often followed Rickey’s dad to his workshop where he refurbished lawnmowers. There, Stan not only stayed occupied but also learned valuable skills that he has used and passed on.

 Laugh lines

Dads are notorious for being silly and fun. Boys need someone to have burping contests with and to show them the lighter side of male life.

Granddaddy Morris was a master at seeing the humor in everyday situations. Though he knew life couldn’t be amusing all the time, he loved to make jokes and play harmless pranks. But even in jest, Granddaddy never belittled anyone and taught Stan to respect others’ dignity while having fun.

 Devoted eyes

One of the most significant things a father figure can model is love for his wife. Boys need a man to show them what being a loving and committed husband really means.

Stan remembers Granddaddy Morris speaking in respectful, almost reverent tones about Mabel, his wife of 50 years. Always the tease, he would “get some sugar” or hug her until she said, “Stop that, Willie! The children are in the room.” Stan had no doubt that Granddaddy truly cherished his wife.

You may not find all these qualities perfectly packaged in one man, but your son will reap the benefits from being with a variety of males who exemplify traits you want him to learn. Uncles, grandfathers, coaches or godly older teens may each contribute to a boy’s training for adulthood as well as fatherhood.

Safety First 

Always let safety be your first priority and allow the Holy Spirit to guide you to the proper mentors for your son. Below are tips to keep your son safe when choosing mentors:

 Meet your son’s mentors. Insist upon getting to know anyone with whom your son spends time.

 Be the initiator. Observe interaction between your son and potential mentors, and be the one to request they spend time together.

 Talk to other parents. You can learn much about a man’s character by his reputation in the community.

*http://www.oneparent.ie/our-families.html 

Pushover Parenting

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  • A leaving cert student fails her English class after plagiarising a paper, receiving an F on her final exam and failing to show up for a make-up session for a botched assignment. Told that their daughter will not be allowed to finish with her friends, her parents threaten to sue the teacher and school.
  • According to an article on Independent.ie (http://www.independent.ie/life/health-wellbeing/health-features/irish-teens-are-starting-to-drink-at-age-13-31150910.html), “The World Health Organisation’s (WHO) global status report on alcohol and health in 2014 showed that Ireland has the second highest rate of binge drinking in the world. It found that 39pc of all Irish people aged 15 years old and over had engaged in binge drinking, or “heavy episodic drinking”, in the past 30 days.”
  • Reality shows often spotlight the real-life travails of hapless mums and dads terrorised by their own children—pint-sized tyrants who kick them, punch them, swear at them and hold them as prisoners in their own home.

In case you hadn’t noticed, Ireland has a parenting problem. The evidence of this parenting deficit can be found at your local supermarket, fast-food restaurant or school car park—spoilt, selfish, out-of-control kids with no concept of right or wrong.

While many aspects of our culture are harmful to children, I’m particularly alarmed by the rise of what I call “pushover parents.” These parents are either unable or unwilling to place limits on their children’s behaviour—even behaviour that is unhealthy, dangerous or destructive. They are so concerned with being liked by their kids that they give in to their children’s every whim.

This neglect has a ripple effect. Even if you are doing a great job of raising responsible kids, your children’s lives are still influenced by this unfortunate trend. Their world is inhabited by kids raised by pushover parents—think bully, dishonest classmate, abusive boyfriend or girlfriend.

 The root of the problem

What turns parents into pushovers? The root causes include:

Wrong thinking. Many parents today believe they have no right to impose their beliefs on their children. They heed the advice of secular parenting gurus who preach that children are brimming with innate goodness and should be allowed to create their own values. Such humanistic advice denies the fact that all of us are inclined toward selfishness and self-deception.

Guilt. When Mum and Dad are both professionals working 50 to 60 hours per week, their children may spend the majority of their early years in day care. Because these parents are physically and emotionally unavailable to their kids, parents may feel tremendous guilt. To assuage this guilt, they often find it impossible to say no.

Copycat or reactive parenting. Many adults today were raised by parents influenced by the permissive, “reject all authority” mantra of the 1960s. As a result, they never learnt the importance of setting appropriate limits. Conversely, individuals who grew up with harsh, authoritarian parents may reject any form of child discipline. They vow, “I’m never going to treat my kids the way I was treated.”

Divorce and single parenting. Contentious divorces and child-custody disputes can turn parents into pushovers. In order to be seen as the “favourite parent,” a mum or dad may spoil the kids. Single parents can fall into the trap of looking to their children to meet their own emotional needs. As a result, they may fail to enforce limits for fear that their kids won’t like them.

 Don’t be a doormat

How can we avoid becoming pushover parents? We can begin by recognising that our children are a blessing from God, and with that blessing comes an awesome responsibility. Children who fail to experience consequences for misbehaviour typically grow up to become selfish, narcissistic adults who leave a trail of broken relationships in their wake.

If you believe you might be a pushover parent, ask your spouse and friends to give you feedback—and give them permission to be honest. If you’re a single parent, ask yourself if you look to your kids for comfort and fear their disapproval. If so, ask God to help you develop close, nurturing friendships with adults—friends who will support you in your role as a single mum or dad.

By balancing love and limits, you can help your kids grow into healthy, godly adults who—as they become mums and dads—will break the destructive cycle of pushover parenting. 

 

by Dr. Bill Maier © Focus on the Family. All rights reserved. International copyright secured. Used by permission.

Tantrums and Whinging

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Creative discipline for temper tantrums and whinging

by Lisa Whelchel

If your kids whinges or has temper tantrums, take a look at these discipline ideas:

Throwing a Tantrum

  • Does your child slam the door when she’s angry? You might tell her, “It’s obvious that you don’t know how to close a door properly. To learn, you will open and close this door, calmly and completely, 100 times.”
  • If your child likes to stomp off to his room or stomp around in anger, send him outside to the driveway and tell him to stomp his feet for one minute. He’ll be ready to quit after about 15 seconds, but make him stomp even harder.
  • The same goes for throwing temper tantrums. Tell your child to go to her room to continue her tantrum. She isn’t allowed to come out and she has to keep crying for 10 minutes. Ten minutes is an awfully long time, and it’s no fun if your parents tell you to cry.
  • Another way to handle temper tantrums is to simply say, “That is too disruptive for this house. You can continue your tantrum in the back garden. When you’re finished, you are welcome to come back inside.” When there isn’t an audience, the thrill of throwing a temper tantrum is gone.
  • If your child asks for something and then argues or throws a tantrum when you tell her no, tell her that no matter what she asks for, from that moment on the answer will be an automatic no until she can accept the answer “no” respectfully.
  • I heard of a grandmother who was buying shoes for her 10-year-old grandson. He threw a tantrum when he realized he wouldn’t get the more expensive pair. So she leaned down and whispered in his ear, “If you continue to embarrass me, I will kiss you all over your face right here in the middle of the store.” He stopped immediately.

Whinging

  • No whinging and no begging are allowed at our house. My children know that if they add “Please, please, please” when asking for something, my response is an automatic “No, no, no.
  • Our children’s piano teacher told me that when she was a little girl and would start whinging about something, her mother would stand there, looking confused — as if she were speaking a foreign language. Then her mother would say, “I’m sorry but I do not understand ‘Whinge-glish.’ Would you please speak to me in English?
  • Jeremiah 17:9-“The heart is deceitful above all things and beyond cure. Who can understand it?” There will be times in our children’s lives when they will be tempted to follow the world’s philosophy: “If it feels good, do it.” There will be other times in life when they must do things they don’t feel like doing. It is important to teach our children as early as possible that our feelings are a gift from God, but that they can’t always be trusted. From the first time they whinge, “I don’t feel like it,” remind them, “Be the boss of your feelings!” This phrase will become even more valuable as our children get older.

 


Adapted from Creative Correction by Lisa Whelchel, a Focus on the Family book published by Tyndale House Publishers. Copyright © 2000, Lisa Whelchel. All rights reserved. International copyright secured.